When you are young you think the person your with is the “love of your life” or your “soulmate” but the truth is you don’t actually know that. You grow so much everyday and especially when you are young you are constantly growing into a new person. Sometimes “high school sweethearts” really do last but other times they may have been perfect at the time but had no plans for the future because they were on different pages.
I dated a guy for seven years, yes 7 years. I thought I was going to marry him and we’d live happily ever after but in reality we have been growing apart for years and haven’t even noticed it. I thought the day we broke up that I was dying and that I could not go on anymore and I need him back. After some time apart I realized that this is really what I needed and I was becoming too comfortable with the idea of us together forever that I was not even putting effort into the relationship at all.
I would not say that I regret any of the time spent with him because it made me truly become the person I am today and I could not be more grateful for that.
Here are 5 tips to staying true to yourself after a long-term relationship break-up
1. It isn’t the end of the world, you’ll be okay. (everyone might say this to you and you will not believe them but trust me you will be just fine.
2. Focus on yourself. This can be just doing better in school or getting promoted at your job. I took out my stress by working out and I lost a bunch of weight which made me feel more empowered.
3. Do not give in. He will try to call/text you eventually and it will probably be when you are the most happy but don’t let him take that happiness from you.
4.Surround yourself with good friends. This is the most important. You never realize how many good friends you have until you are single because when you are in a relationship you are so absurd in that that you forget how much fun you have with friends.
5. Celebrate. Break-ups suck!!!! but celebrate you new found freedom by doing more things and going out with good friends. You;ll find yourself so distracted that you’ll be over him in no time.